FAQ

  • What exactly is ‘keiyaku kekkon’?

    ‘Keiyaku’ is the Japanese word for ‘contract’. ‘Kekkon’ is the Japanese word for ‘marriage’. So literally it means ‘Contract Marriage.’

    Keiyaku Kekkon is a service that lets people describe their ideal marriage lifestyle and find a suitable partner.

  • How do I use Keiyaku Kekkon?
  • Isn’t this just like Seeking Arrangement?

    Not really, but there is an important similarity: Making expectations clear up front.

    Keiyaku Kekkon is not a sugar daddy site. Our goal is to encourage marriage. Marriage is not just a temporary sex for money arrangement, in spite of what cynics might say. While it is possible to use Keiyaku Kekkon for these type of sugar daddy relationships, it is optimized for traditional marriages – lifelong partnerships meant for building families.

  • So how does it work?

    Sign up, make a profile, and then create your marriage contract. The contract is a very detailed document that describes exactly what you can bring to a marriage partnership, and exactly what you expect of your partner.

    Once done, you search for compatible contracts among other users and other users can search for you. When a user finds a contract they like, they can submit a proposal – a modified (or unmodified) version of their contract – to that user. When users receive a proposal, they can either accept it, reject it, or send a counter offer – an edited version of the proposal they received. Users can go back and forth with counter offers as long as they wish.

    Once a user accepts a proposal, contact information is exchanged. Then the two users meetup and live happily ever after!

  • Are women allowed to propose to men?

    Sure. There are no gender restrictions. Of course we realize many ladies would prefer men do the proposing. For this reason we added the ‘wink’ feature that lets people show interest without being too bold.

  • Are the contracts created legally binding?

    Only if you want them to be.

    When a user accepts a proposal, the pair is considered ‘matched’ on our end. From there the users are free to do whatever they wish. They can meet in person and ignore the contract. They can print it out and keep it around, as a reminder of their agreement. They can also choose to make it legally binding, however the process for doing this may vary depending on jurisdiction.

    Our advice for people that want to make a legally binding document is to speak with an attorney.

  • Can I use Keiyaku Kekkon anonymously?

    Keiyaku Kekkon does not require users to upload a picture and does not force people to use their real names. That said, once our beta testing period ends, you will need a payment method in order to get full functionality. Also, your future spouse will likely prefer to eventually know who you are.

  • Can I use Keiyaku Kekkon to create a prenup?

    Sure, but you will need to modify the final contract the site creates. Print it out and speak to an attorney.

  • Doesn’t this make a mockery of the institution of marriage?

    Quite the contrary.

    No one has more admiration for the institution of marriage than us. It is because we believe so strongly in the benefits of marriage that we created this service. Marriage is beneficial both to individuals and society at large. Keiyaku Kekkon is not a typical startup just out to make money. We have a big social mission: To increase marriage rates and as a consequence help create stable families and communities.

  • Do you support gay marriage?

    We are neither for nor against it. We respect each country’s right to come to their own conclusion. That said, the contract language in our system refers to one ‘husband’ and one ‘wife’.  So while it is possible for someone to use the site to find a partner of the same sex, it is somewhat awkward. Better support for gay marriages is in our feature roadmap and will come faster if we see a lot of interest.

  • Doesn’t this remove all of the romance and mystery from relationships?

    We really do not think so but ultimately it is subjective.

    For some people, the uncertainty and gradual revelations that come with normal romantic relationships are a large part of the fun. To such people who enjoy conventional dating, we say ‘have at it!’ We recognize that our service is not for everyone.

    For others, getting rid of the anxiety around partner expectations actually allows for more romance and spontaneity. Knowing that the other person is on the same page about marriage can make people feel freer – more comfortable being themselves instead of trying to guess what sort of approach will entice the other person to commit.

  • Why do you charge 3000 yen a month? Isn’t that expensive?

    Well, the service is actually free during our alpha period, so there’s that. When alpha is complete we will charge 3000 yen, which is about $30. We think it is fair for the problem we are trying to solve.

    Keiyaku Kekkon is not a dating site. It is a marriage site. How much time and money does the average person spend trying to find a spouse over the course of their lifetime? Quite a lot, once you factor in the cost of dates, time spent at the hairdresser, and the price of a really bitchin’ pair of shoes. We spend all of this time and money slowly trying to weedle out of people the very information Keiyaku Kekkon gets up front.

    That 3000 yen fee helps us keep the lights on and keep improving the service. It also ensures that only serious people sign up. The fee is just enough to ensure people have ‘skin in the game’ and an incentive to spread the word so that the service and its pool of potential spouses keeps growing. What’s more, we offer a lot of discounts and ways to use the service free of charge.

    Ultimately we believe that if you are not willing to invest 3000 yen to help make likely the most important decision of your life, then perhaps you are not the best fit for the service. As we say, Keiyaku Kekkon is not for everyone.

  • Do users that match up have to get married?

    No, of course not. While we hope to someday have the power to compel people to get married, we are not there yet.

    Two users may agree on a proposal, meet up, and then decide that they are not right for each other. That is completely fine. Our service just makes marriage easier by ensuring that the person you meet has the same long-term priorities and vision about married life.

    If a match does not work out, users are free to come back and try again.

  • Don’t you guys worry about scammers and fake marriages for visas?

    Check the disclaimer.

    Keiyaku Kekkon is a service for helping adults create mutually beneficial relationships. We do not support any form of illegal activity. Though people may attempt to use the service for things like visa fraud and escorting, we do not endorse such activities and will gladly work with law enforcement to put a stop to them. Keiyaku Kekkon is first and foremost about helping people get married. We do not mind people using the site for other legal purposes, but will not tolerate illegal behavior.

  • What exactly is a ‘Contract’?

    The contract is the core feature of Keiyaku Kekkon. It functions both as an offer and a request. It lets the user describe exactly what they intend to bring to the marriage in terms of income, housework, childcare, commitment, and other values. It also lets the user describe exactly what they hope to get in return from a potential partner. Once done, the contract is used by our system to find matches. Users can browse suggested matches, or do custom searches on their own.

    If a user finds someone they like, they can submit a proposal. Here we mean ‘proposal’ both in the sense of a marriage proposal and a business proposal. The proposal is actually just a copy of the user’s contract with whatever custom edits or messages they wish to make. Once the recipient receives the proposal, they can accept, reject, or counter. If they reject it, the interaction between the two ends. If they accept it, the two users are matched, contact info is exchanged, and hopefully it is happily ever after from there.

    If the recipient decides to counter, they then can make edits to the proposal and send it back to the original sender. That original sender can then do the same – accept, reject, counter – and the process continues until one person finally accepts or rejects the proposal.

  • Doesn’t it take a long time to create one of these contracts?

    They are pretty detailed, yes. How long it takes depends on how much detail you want to put into it and how many specific requirements you wish to cover. It can take anywhere from 10 minutes to several hours to complete.

    To make the process a bit easier, we have a number of ‘Archetype’ contracts that users can use as a base.

  • What is an Archetype?

    Archetypes are pre-made contracts that users can select to make it easier to finish their own contracts. Users can select an archetype and have a fully complete contract immediately. They can then go over the document and customize it where necessary.

    There are different archetypes for husbands and wives. For example, there is the ‘Head of Household’ archetype for husbands. It describes a more traditional marriage where the husband is expected to be both the provider and leader. Another example is the ‘Career Woman’ archetype. This is for women that want a more egalitarian marriage with a partner that will support their work ambitions.

    Archetypes are simply a convenience. Users do not have to use them.

  • How do I make the contract legally binding? Say I want to create a prenuptial agreement.

    The specific laws for marriage vary across jurisdictions. You will have to look up local marriage laws for your city, state, and country.

    Here is some general advice:

    When you have a successful match on Keiyaku Kekkon, you and your match will have a single unified marriage contract. You can print this out at any time. If you want to make it legally binding, you and your new partner should both modify and sign the final document, ideally with witnesses present. This signed document can then be added to a traditional marriage agreement and approved by your local authorities.

    There are a number of possible complexities that may arise depending on the contents of the contract as well. Keiyaku Kekkon users are free to put anything they want in their contracts, including things that are not legally enforceable. For example, you cannot make a contract granting one person the right to murder the other. To our knowledge, there are no countries that would permit this (though hey, maybe we’re wrong).

    For this reason, our advice to people that want strong legally binding contracts is to talk to an attorney. Get a professional to go over the document our site generates and modify the language to ensure it constitutes a valid legal agreement.


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